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Meeting your love match this fall may require some work

September 23, 2013 by MsCheevious

And THIS right here may be your ticket ===>  matchlogo_grad

 

When my divorce was finally FINAL after a couple of years of separation and negotiations with my ex, I had already been dipping my toe into the dating world pool. Shhhh… don’t tell anyone.

In fact, I couldn’t wait for my divorce to be final at the time, because suddenly I was confronted with the wonderful world of other guys who were actually, really and truly interested and attracted to ME (go FIGURE).

As much as I had no idea what was in store for my world sans my significant other, I also knew moving forward without a ROCKIN’ social life was never going to be an option. My choices were obvious: dig in and let some new people in, or die. And you guys, I am NOT now, nor have I ever been into dying.

 

And here is one of those annoying little unavoidables we divorced mommies and daddies must face:

 

meeting a LOVE MATCH may actually require some work – no matter what a “love match” means to you.

 

Never being afraid of work, I was one of the first in my circle of single girlfriends to dive into online dating. I’ll never forget the weekend I set up my first-ever profile on MATCH. I spent a good part of the afternoon crafting a witty and informative profile, adding some fun photos. I knew I wanted to meet men, but I wasn’t interested in a relationship (I’d just gotten out of one I hadn’t liked so much). I stated that little fact loud and clear at the top of my profile. About an hour later my inbox bulged with hundreds of messages from men also not wanting a relationship. Again, go FIGURE. But really, I wanted to meet new people, I made known what I was looking for and it WORKED.

I later rethought my goals and tweaked my profile (after filling my social calendar with a few too many guys I couldn’t keep track of, and after growing tired of coffee).

Whitney Casey Interview

I admit, it took some work to set up, but the part of the work I hadn’t thought of was getting into the dating part of it. You know… you gotta actually GO on a date if you want to meet your Mr. or Ms. Right some day? Go FIGURE.

And that is how Whitney Casey, Relationship Expert with Match.com puts it too… Yep. I brought in the big guns. In conjunction with a fall promotion Match.com is doing for Single Parents, they agreed to allow me to interview Whitney for you lovely people.

Something that I learned in talking to these great folks is that Single Parents who use online dating sites have 2x’s the dating success than those who don’t date online. So although you may feel like it’s all smarm and that no good can come of diving into online dating, the odds you are right and that is true DO NOT ADD UP. This means, if you’re a single parent wanting to meet someone special, the time is ripe (and so is the fruit in my experience… just sayin). I also found out that you won’t be alone if you choose to dive in. Over a third of the members on Match.com are single parents! And you’ll find out some cool things about what people looking for love think about dating single parents in my interview below.

The point is, it is about damn time to get back in the saddle ladies and gentlemen. The dates aren’t going to happen on their own.

But WATCH this quick video interview I did with Whitney, because I asked her all of. the questions you’ll BOTH want to know the answers to (guys and gals)… all about what to say (and not) on your first date, how to create a rockin’ profile, and a couple of other great tips!

WATCH IT NOW:

If for some reason your browser does not display the video box above, click here to view the fun and informative interview.

This post has been graciously sponsored by match.com because match.com is helping single parents find their love match this fall.  Get over there to sign up and get back in the saddle again you hot-hot-hottie mchottlesteins. 

 

Filed Under: Sponsored Post Tagged With: back in the saddle, get back in the saddle, Love Match, Match, Match.com, Ms. Cheevious, MsCheevious, Online Dating, Parents, single, Single Parent Love, Whitney Cole

Single RULES in 2010

January 3, 2010 by MsCheevious

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Okay everyone!  Here’s a little bonus post to launch us into the new year.  If you are new HERE – well, geez, WELCOME!  I love that you’ve stopped by!  Be sure and post something on your way out, would ya? Thanks!  🙂

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So…  here goes…

With the New Year now in full swing, (and after one of the toughest years for most everyone out there – both fiscally, and mentally – due to the barrage of garbage that was drilled into our brains – ad nauseum, infinitum – in the form of stupid statements like “the sucky economy” or “you know… they couldn’t hire so-n-so, because business is so bad”, and all manner of other trash-talk stuff), I decided it’s time to talk about being single. HA! HA!

I know.  I know. Why talk about being single?  Why such a departure from the whole “the economy sucks” rant?  Well, it’s not such a departure.  It’s actually related in a twisted sort of way.  And besides, we all know that the neuro-paths in my brain are a little twisted, so try and keep up, would ya?

Basically – I KNOW for a fact that some of you out there worked yourselves up into little frenzies and created disappointing NYE’s for yourselves – all because you had a picture of what was suppose to happen when the clock struck midnight. Indulge me here:

If you’re a guy, admit it.  You imagined that if things went your way, you were gonna’ be with one of the hottest girls around.  You planned that if you did all the right things to romance her in the weeks, days and hours leading up to that midnight kiss on New Years Eve (open doors for her, help her with her jacket, take her out for drinks with your sacred inner circle of guy friends, make her feel special, even call to make sure she is safe at home if she drives on her own, etc… etc… blah, blah, blah) that you’d be sure to “get some.”  Because in your mind the kiss was just the beginning.  Mannn oh man, if you played your cards right you were gonna’ get some, and get some GOOD.  You were gonna’ have some of your very own New Year’s Eve-fireworks.  It didn’t matter that your girl was probably thinking as the two of you moved in for the kiss, that the two of you were “ushering in the New Year – together: Partners, walking hand-in-hand (together), into a sea of happiness… forging a future full of good memories… TOGETHER.”  All you were thinking was, “Bring it on, baby! I’ve been working HARD for this night!” And that was about it!

So, do tell.  How’d that work out for ya?  Huh, guys?

And you girlie girls out there… those of you who are of the single variety.  Yes, I am talking to you now.  You who tried your hardest to have a date on New Year’s Eve, if only to relieve the stress or embarrassment of having no special “someone” to kiss at the strike of midnight.  You know it’s true.  If you aren’t in a relationship at the moment, you KNOW it was all only about that very moment… more-so than whether or not you really actually LIKED the guy.  But worse, if you DID like the guy, you built that moment up into some incredibly heavily weighted moment, that no person can live up to.  You imagined the two of you would smooch, share an intense emotional tie, and move forward into the new year as a newly bonded couple, and plan the days and weeks ahead together. And if you were flying solo on New Year’s Eve, out with the girls, you KNOW it was an important thing for most of you to find someone “suitable,” who you could flirt and play cat and mouse with, and then hopefully get a smooch out of it at midnight as well.  Am I right?

So, fill us in.  How’d it go?

I’m just sayin’ people.  What the HECK is so wrong with being single?  What the HECK would have been so bad about being at the bar, and NOT kissing anyone – except maybe good friends on the cheek, or whatever – when that clock struck midnight? How hard IS it REALLY to enjoy oneself as a single individual?

A very shrewd single gal said recently, “Being single is NOT a condition that needs a cure.”

AMEN TO THAT.

And, please don’t preach to me about how I have M.C. Nugget, and perhaps I can’t relate, or whatever else you’d like to use to justify any sort of erratic obsessive-compulsive behavior.  I’ve been single plenty in my life, and I am still single today.  I am not engaged, or married, or in any sort of what most people would consider a “traditional” relationship.  I too, realize I am not getting any younger, and old age is slowly working its way toward little ole’ me.  Age spares no one.  But I am only getting BETTER BABY.  Age can come and kiss my cute little tuckus.  HA!  The fact that M.C. and I call each other boyfriend/girlfriend is really incidental, and it took us over nine months of dating to do so, as we were both so happy being single ourselves, that we didn’t want to “label” and ruin it!  Yes, I loved being with him on New Year’s Eve and was very glad to kiss only him when the clock struck twelve.  But that’s besides the point.

The fact is – I am so tired of people being so unhappy with their lot in life that they manipulate and commit all manner of craziness – all for the sake of “getting” happy, or “finding” happiness.  Don’t you get it?  You need to be happy with life as you ARE.  Realize what a great person you ARE without anyone else.  Put yourself in a position of power, so that you can pick and choose and be selective.  Then, when that girl or guy comes along that is perfect for you, you’ll actually be capable of SEEING him or her when they are in FRONT of you!

So – my advice this year girls and boys?  One guess.  Get happy being you – all alone.  Get to know yourself and fall in love with who you are – what makes up everything about you.  If you have work to do on you – DO IT.  YOU are WORTH it.  Get in shape, lean out those bodies, or get a massage… whatever works for you.  But GET HAPPY WITH YOU – all by your lonesome.  Then and only then will you be ready – IF YOU WANT – to allow someone else into your great little life to participate!

Get it?

Now go out there and have some fun with your bad-ass self, would you?  As I promised, my next regular post will dish on some really fantastic Hollywood events I’ve been able to take some clients to lately!  Stay tuned!

Love you people!  Mmmmmmmmphhhhuhhhhh!!!

xoxo,

Ms. Cheevious

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Filed Under: Dating, Single Moms, Single Women, Stress, Uncategorized Tagged With: 2010, Dating, new year, New Years Eve, single

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