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Woah Nelly…I’m Dizzy

August 4, 2013 by MsCheevious

Whoa Nelly is an understatement.

My head has been spinning out of control off and on for over a month. And I mean that in the literal sense.

I am DIZZY.

Yep.

But let’s dispense with all manner of revelry right now, shall we? I am dizzy, and I am also blonde. That doesn’t make me a dizzy blonde.

You wouldn’t be alone to begin to think maybe I have a little Munchausen’s thing going on after all of the surgeries and procedures I’ve had in the last couple of years..

I would think so myself, if the rest of the world weren’t so damned upside down right now. It’s tough to navigate life while I bounce around it like a cartoon character in a bumper-boat pinball game.

The doctor thought at first it was something simple like positional vertigo, which would mean I would simply do exercises to reset the crystals in the brain, bringing them back to normal (as in this video). Now, after extensive “dizziness” testing with their Audiologist, she thinks she’s ruled that out and believes I have an inner ear condition called Superior Canal Dehiscence (“opening” in plain English), and if this is the case, the only fix is surgery.

Shit.

I’ve had enough surgery in the last couple of years of my life to stuff one little tiny procedure at a time down the throat of every doctor in LA until they all become rolly-polly pudge-meisters, wobbling down the block and floating up into the air in Beverly Hills.

This is some serious shit.

But I’ve decided surgery is NOT how this is going down.

I may be dizzy, but I haven’t lost my mind….

….

Just…

…

don’t say a word.

….

My point is, I’ve decided I am in charge of my body, and I will be the one to decide what is wrong with my ear (if anything). It is not going to be the imperative surgery situation the docs are thinking. Since this fabulous news, I’ve been doing those exercises and my brain has been “engaging” with my little inner ear canals and other body parts, to tell them point blank:

“No, ear, you do NOT have any sort of “opening.” This is me, your BRAIN here, and I am in charge. I’ll say when there is an “opening” you hear? (pun intended). But we’ve got to stick together. So here is the plan:

Bone: These openings happen because of lack of bone, so you are in charge of making sure you are fortified so there ARE no… openings… whatever is going on down there, it’s your job to strengthen the front lines and fortify that canal! Do you hear me? If you need resources, talk to me… I’ll send extra blood, whatever else I’ve got… but you are NOT going to fall apart here.. do you understand?

My little ear and all of your little parts: Well we are all here for you. We are not going to let you go down, so by GOD man, buck up! Toughen up and we will get through this together!

And finally, blood, tissue, and every other part: Pay attention! Stand guard! Be ready to jump when I say jump. If we need you it’s going to be fast. If you need something get me a message any way you can, so I can send in reinforcements.

In the meantime I’ll be over here balancing the crystals with those exercises. The medics say that isn’t the problem, but I believe it could help, so by God that’s what we’re going to do.

All of you listen up: I don’t know what kind of mayhem has been going on here that this even happened, but we are going to straighten this up STAT. Do you hear me?”

This time next week, I plan to have a whole new story of a non-dizzy blonde who is large and in CHARGE, come hell or high water.

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Starting this week, I began posting a short, witty paragraph or two a day for a segment called the Daily Mischief here on Ms. Cheevious. Additionally, M.C. Nugget has agreed to take a random photo a day for a segment called Daily Nugget. I hope you’ll pay a visit regularly (there are links to all of the stories for Daily Mischief and Daily Nugget on the navigation of any page of MsCheevious.com). In keeping with our once-a-week-subscription email policy (because, who the hell wants too many emails in their inbox, right?) I do not plan to email these posts out. Daily Mischief is loads of fun, with quickie stories like “A work at home situation that needs resolution” and “The day we succumbed to television peer pressure,” and the Daily Nugget has offered us such Pulitzer prize candidate photos (at least we think so) as “Which Came First? The Chicken or the Egg Full of Money?” and other such nonsensical fun images. Why? Because we can.

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Face Down the Grim Reaper With a Free Ah-Ha Moment

July 28, 2013 by MsCheevious

I’m willing to wager a bet that you love life. You’ll hang on to it like grim death. Most humans do. Damn straight. As a matter of fact, if you were to suddenly come face to face with the Grim Reaper, you might (if given the chance) unleash a can of whoop-ass on the dude. It wouldn’t necessarily be a welcome meeting.

Granted, there are some who welcome the dark visitor… but at best, if they are ready for Mr. Reaper, they’re generally facing uniquely difficult daily physical challenges or struggles and are either exhausted from the uphill battle of vibrance and vitality and of maintaining quality of life, or they are simply resigned to the Reaper’s inevitable visit after living longer than they ever imagined.

But mostly, we humans love life, and want to do what we can to keep on living – and living well. Am I right?

What is the definition of “living well” if it is not to enjoy experiences we relish, people we cherish and a life that is not plagued with ailments, aches, pains and other physical struggles? Ahhhh… to be able to get through life without any physical ailments or challenges.

But how can we maintain a grounded, joyful, refreshed and content physical existence, regardless of the other “stuff”? How can we feel cleansed and clear if we are dealing with daily aches, pains and physical setbacks?

One of the key solutions for me is by doing yoga or similar stretching exercises… basically unhurried, peaceful and deliberate stretches….

You could argue that I really get rejuvenated purely because I’m taking time out for me and showing my body love… and I may not argue with you – in which case, this post won’t mean a whole heck of a lot to you. But I seem to think what I am doing actually works.

The only way I’ve found sustained relief and a refreshed youthful feeling is by occasionally (or often) devoting just a little tender loving care to those muscles and bones through doing my own little yoga routine (also known as my yoga practice). It’s amazing how our bodies respond with even the littlest bit of TLC.

YOGA & SIMILAR STRETCHING EXERCISES = LONGEVITY. PERIOD.

This is precisely why I wrote my book, “Ahhhhhh…Haaaaaa Moments with Ms. Cheevious.” I put it together primarily for people who’ve never tried Yoga but were curious or intrigued. That isn’t to say the routine in the book won’t challenge you if you’re a bonafide yogi… It will if you allow it! But I did it for newbies mostly so they could try it in a non-threatening environment, without the pressure to keep up (and not fall over!), or without all of the Ohms and Ahhhhs (not that there’s anything wrong with that) or spiritual overtones that they could face in a random yoga class.

When I first tried yoga (even just a few classes), I immediately felt my body refresh and rejuvenate. I fell in love with it and became an instructor in Aspen, Colorado. I still love it. There is nothing like it. And it’s a great way to stay lean without damaging knees, hips or other joints. As my yoga instructor once said, “You do not have to do “Power Yoga” to lose weight or get fit with yoga. Haven’t you noticed? There generally are no overweight people who practice yoga regularly.” So why not give it a try? It’s even easier with my little e-book…

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Acceptance is Key

July 19, 2013 by MsCheevious

I have a friend who took her two sons on a first-ever “just them” vacation recently. She says she learned two things: 1) She loves her kids deeply and loves being a mother (her sons are officially both adults now), but 2) One of them is not nice to her (as a matter of fact, he is borderline verbally abusive and downright disrespectful). When I heard this, I was a little shocked because really, the guy is a pretty cool dude. But apparently, he simply will not accept his mom for who she is and he is pretty damn insistent that unless she change some pretty significant things about who she is, they’ll never get along …

Suffice it to say, she’s not loving spending time with him. She even said “I just don’t like him.”

Know this: She was extremely upset and hurt over this. It really broke her up… because, well… how could a mother not like her own son? It made her feel embarrassed and ashamed. But in the end, she was pretty much “done.”

Does this make her a bad parent? I think not. We are not required to “like” everyone on this planet — even if it turns out to be one of our own offspring. It is sad to think it’s possible that after we pour so much love, blood, sweat and tears into someone, it is even remotely possible they could turn out to be a person we don’t want to invite to the next event. But you know, at some point we still have only ourselves to take to the grave … and we must stay true to *that* person.

Gone should be the days of squelching our true selves, sweeping our loves, interests and wishes under the carpet, or changing and adjusting goals or desires because someone else thinks we should (or they simply can’t handle the healthy choices we’ve made for ourselves). Rest assured, we are not talking about the need to abstain from alcohol or drugs around someone who struggles with substance abuse, or anything similar to that. This was a personality trait that one of her lovely boys would like to miraculously disappear. And it is a trait, (or a way about her, I suppose), that I happen to personally admire in this lady.

When all is said and done, I always come back to this:

CHOOSE TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE AROUND YOU, AND WHO WILL WORK AS HARD AS YOU DO AT ACCEPTING OTHERS FOR WHO THEY ARE.

What are your thoughts on this?
I’ll see you next time my lovelies with something fun, fantastic and fully flirtatious!

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Dear Ovaries: It’s Been Fun…

July 7, 2013 by MsCheevious

By now most anyone who follows my blog, reads my articles or watches my videos all over cyberspace knows that I have the BRCA2 genetic mutation for Breast and Ovarian Cancer. As a result of discovering this, I opted back in late 2011 and early 2012 to have all of the lovely procedures necessary to alleviate most of my risk (think Angelina Jolie… No. I mean it. Picture her, because I’m pretty sure I didn’t pull of the glamorous/beautiful thing during those months. I had the puffy/pale thing DOWN though.). You can read any of the articles I’ve written on the subject by clicking here, here, or here. You can also see coverage and interviews about said procedures on national television and other places by perusing my personal website with most of those links here. In light of my decision, I’ve written a Dear John letter to my ovaries. For anyone who’s ever had ovaries or known anyone with them (and particularly if anyone has witnessed the effects of Ovarian cancer, or lived through it), you should be able to relate to this.

Dear Ovaries:

We’ve been together a long, long time. You’ve been a significant part of my life – well – forever, and lived with me through everything – the good, the bad and the ugly. Despite all of that, our relationship has seen its share of ups and downs, to say the least.

Ovaries… I never got over how after our initial thirteen years of peaceful bliss together, things suddenly changed. You got all… gushy and stuff. Was it a mid-life crisis? I guess I’ll never know… but I felt like you became so “high maintenance” then. And it never let up. In fact, every single month for about a week or so, like clockwork, something happened and you required unbelievable amounts of extra attention. Everything became all about “you.” It was bleeding our relationship dry. From that point on, things between us became – well – strained.

I gained a deeper understanding of our relationship, when I had given birth to my two boys. Somehow, I thought we were destined for better times. I must admit, I made the same mistake that many do, when I thought having the kids would make it all better. On the contrary, the kids needed my attention as well, and I wanted to give everything to them. But your high maintenance shenanigans never let up, and frankly, I didn’t need all the extra effort, energy and work. Sometimes it affected me so much I had to be medicated, ovaries. It wasn’t pretty.

And so, my dear ovaries, you must understand that when I met Brca Gene (Braca for short), I was intrigued. He said everything I needed to hear, and he made things so clear for me. I’d already witnessed my sister’s relationship with her ovaries end horribly. In fact she didn’t make it out alive. I didn’t want that to happen to us, my love. So I saw this as an opportunity… a way to set us both free! Finally you and I both had a chance to be free from the constant neediness… free from the possibility of your getting ill, going insane and turning on me… and free to go on and live our lives… apart (well… that part isn’t probably the best scenario for you, and for that I am sorry).

It hasn’t been an easy decision, ovaries. Honestly, I’ve thought long and hard about this… but after all we’ve been through, and what I now know about you from Braca… well, I’m going to have to say goodbye. It’s been fun, but now it’s over, ovaries.

Sayonara, Adios, Don’t let the door hit you on the ass – uh – tube…

I’m off to live my life with Braca. Don’t think for a minute that I’m naive about this new relationship. I know it will have its own set of challenges, but I’m going in with my eyes wide open and a hopeful outlook for a long life together.

With love and appreciation for all you’ve done in my life…

Enjoy your week everyone!

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Take a Chill Pill

June 30, 2013 by MsCheevious

Just a little encouragement here people – from me to you:

In follow up to my “Relationship Whispering,” article (because some misunderstood that article to be the “how to nab a guy in four easy steps” article)… I cannot stress more the REAL point: You are awesome, so fill your time and energy with more of the awesome things you do. Live your life to the fullest, baby.

If you aren’t as “awesome” as you think you can be, spend your time and energy getting there. And stop worrying about or spinning your wheels, expending countless amounts of hard-earned energy over “getting” something (or someone), and turn your focus onto YOU.

Basically, take a CHILL PILL folks.

RELAX.

Having exactly what you think you want will do you no good unless YOU are in the healthiest, happiest place possible on this planet (and no, that is not Disneyland). It isn’t always a “relationship” we long for, but for the sake of continuity from my last article, I’ll use it as my first example.

When women (especially on the younger side) start “seeing” someone and find they want more, they often spend their energy unwisely… especially in the early stages…

Is this a “thing?”

Should I call him?

Does he still like me romantically?

Why didn’t he call? Did I do something wrong? Am I not pretty enough?

Are there any other obsessive questions I can ask and spend my days/nights/weekends worrying about?

We all do this folks, even if it’s really about our next career goal, or even… maybe…. a book deal… or something. We all find ourselves spending too much time (and valuable energy) WISHING or thinking about it, when we simply should get on with LIVING.

I’m so bummed I can’t afford this condo that’s for sale. I’m such a loser without enough money.

I wonder what kind of job I would need to be able to afford it? I wonder if I’m even good enough to get such a job?

Maybe I’ll keep playing the lottery, and since I have the best intentions to save humanity, I will win, and can have that condo (and three more if I wish).

If only I knew the right people, maybe my whole world and job would be different and I would be able to afford that condo.

My “whispering” article which so aptly detailed scenarios I hear every day and have lived myself, was intended to make clear that you must LEARN and HOLD FAST to a completely DIFFERENT mindset.

In order to find and hold fast to a new mindset, you truly must TURN YOUR FOCUS from all of those types of thoughts listed above, to more appropriate things like…

“I’m excited about who I am and for the potential for greatness I possess!”

“What type of person do I want to be when I DO reach this goal?”

“How can I get there?”

“What list of things did I do this week that I can be proud of?”

“I think I must do more of THAT. Let me put more of THAT on my schedule.”

“I deserve some alone or ME time… I will pamper myself a little.”

“I’ll read more so I am the well-read, educated person I want to be.”

“I’ll get a weekly massage or stretch out for _____minutes a day to relax my muscles.”

“What, if anything, should I add to my world to become the person I want to be?”

“Should I learn more skills or find a place where I can practice my new mad-skills?”

“Are my friends healthy and supportive? Should I get out and make/cultivate new friendships?”

“Should I network more to meet colleagues in my field or interest areas?”

“Maybe I will take a cooking class… Learn to play polo… ride a horse.”

“Who are the wonderful people in my life, and how have I been treating them? Have I focused on them lately?”

Obviously these are just a few examples of other, healthier thoughts. A different – healthier mindset is the KEY to your GOLDEN city of dreams people. But turning our focus when we really want something (or someone) or “Intend” to achieve something, is no easy task. It’s not that the “Thing” we want shouldn’t or won’t happen or be “ours.” It’s not that we shouldn’t take necessary steps to make things happen, or that we aren’t going to “get” there. I am NOT saying to lose your goals. I am saying there are always elements in every situation that are beyond your control. You only have control over YOU and your responses.

So, THAT is where my list of tools from the Relationship Whispering article come in. How do we apply them to other situations? Well, here is one way:

Write down a “thing” you want – your GOAL (relationship/friendship, job, record label contract, book deal, three-picture deal, car, whatever). Then make a list of healthy approaches designed to fill your time…approaches that are related to you and that “thing” and are intended to make you even MORE awesome than you already are (in the case of Mr. Gorgeous: Make a list of things you can enjoy on your own – see movies, go to nice dinners, get friends together for fun interesting events). Plain English: SET YOUR GOAL and instead of a plan of attack, list things you plan to do for yourself to keep you healthy and make you more awesome while you try to achieve your goal. Do more for yourself than you do toward your goal.

When something you want doesn’t happen (your dream home is for sale again and it’s still out of your reach, the guy didn’t call, the book isn’t published, the producer didn’t hire you for the gig, fill in the blank), write a new list of related healthy, proactive things you can do to build the best you EVER (learn that foreign language, practice making Origami creatures, start a daily gymnastics regimen, begin saving clippings of your favorite interior designs, whatever). Then when the time comes that you DO reach said goal (or move-on entirely – as may be the case with that dream gig/job/house/guy/girl) you’ll be anything BUT ill-prepared, and happier for it. Plain English: BE PREPARED with an arsenal of healthy responses and even more love for “you” if and when you encounter set backs.

You never have to lose or let go of your goals. But your desires may change, especially as you continue to grow and become the person of your dreams.

FOCUS on what REALLY matters:

YOU people. You.

Most of all CHILL OUT. RELAX.

You are becoming more incredible by the moment.

Love you people!!!! Mmmmmpppphhhuuuhhhh!!!!!

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Just Call Me The Relationship Whisperer

June 23, 2013 by MsCheevious

That’s me. The Relationship Whisperer… Well, more like the Relationship “Hit-em-over-the-head” er.

But everyone needs their own personal relationship whisperer, to help stop them from committing the cRaZIeS every now and then.

If you are a single lady, or know any, hang out with me here for a bit, and I guarantee you’ll be glad you did.

Allow me to share a little example of my Relationship Whispering at work, to prove what a STUD I am, before you pass judgement. After said example I’ll share some beautiful jewels of ageless wisdom.

A friend of mine, Glitter Nails, is in the early stages of a “situation” with a guy she actually likes more than her new manicure (the manicure with glitter and little cartoon characters on alternating nails).

We texted about her situation, because she felt her guy “Cutie” was acting “different” or distancing himself the night before. We spoke on the phone at first… but then I was telling M.C. Nugget about it, and he reminded me of some great points… So, here is my text conversation with Glitter Nails below:

Know why she simply replied “Thank you!”? Because I’m right! Damn straight! But keep reading. The inspiration continues … also there is a typo a little ways down… but just keep reading…

Just so you know, the part above that says “totally secure and. Oil okay with that” is suppose to say “totally secure and totally okay with that“. My iPhone and I are at the intersection of Love and Hate right now… It’s a bit of a crossroads where I keep trying to figure out how not to throw it out the window, and it keeps trying to learn not to misspell, but fails constantly.

A sure sign of any “whisperer” of sorts, is when the subject begins to feel empowered and capable of doing what’s necessary. Glitter had the right idea there when she said “Just going to leave it alone.” So, of course I continued…

Her response was simply “Thank you – you are right.”

I rest my case.

Now listen up ladies (and gents, if you happen to know someone to share this with). I’m about to unleash some nuggets that could change your life. I’m not kidding.

To sum up this and a myriad of other dating situations between men and women, here is how you ladies should behave if you want to attract the best friend who is worthy of being in your life:

1) Maintain your awesome, fun, incredible life regardless of how much a guy wants to see you – even at the beginning. If you get sucked into a day and night, constant phone calls and texting situation, it’s okay. Just remember and continue to remind yourself that this is only preliminary and temporary… He WILL move on from this at some point. He ALWAYS does.

2) Until you are actually IN a REAL relationship, and you’ve had the conversation about dating exclusively… well, let’s face it. It’s anything but exclusive, so all bets are off baby. Keep your dating card open and scheduled, even if it’s with guys you don’t necessarily want to date long term. Keep yourself BUSY and distracted. If you do, it will help you with so much more than you can imagine, and if you don’t, you’ll be in danger of pining, thinking, wishing and wondering during your idle time. And for what? Remember… You are AWESOME & INCREDIBLE… which brings me to #3:

3) Keep reminding yourself of your sky high value – your awesomeness – and of the AWESOME-SAUCE life you are building for yourself. Do NOT get stuck in the imagination rut where you picture all the other pretty girls he is probably talking to or dating.

Admit it. Every one of you single ladies, when suddenly not in touch with Mr. Lover Boy, envisions him out sailing on a yacht flanked by hot chicks, drinking and dancing the night away with a slew of other women. That, or at best, you’re taking on his martyrdom, making excuses for and enabling him to be a sad-sap because of a broken home, divorce from five years ago, or whatever… Women are too good at making allowances for a guy’s difficult life… When in reality, if you actually spent all that time and energy working on becoming the finished product you want to be, and reminding yourself of all of the incredible traits that make you beautiful – you wouldn’t have the time or inclination to imagine anything about him. Or better yet, when you do go down the road of imagining his world, you will recognize that bad habit early on, and bring it to a screeching halt.

Now, just for giggles here are some other things that will empower you on the road:

a) Don’t be the first to reach out. When you go a few days without the communication you’re accustomed to, DO NOT be the first to reach out. When he does reach out (and he will), go back to #3 above and remember how awesome you are, and think about your cool, busy, mover-and-shaker life (or of how it will one day be that way, because of the YOU you’re developing now). Then, don’t answer his call right away. LET him leave a voicemail. If he doesn’t leave one, LET IT GO. Don’t call back from a missed call right away. Don’t text him back. Make him wait.

This is not a game with him… I SWEAR.TO.GOD he isn’t even thinking about “it.” You can call it a game you have to play with yourself if you want – but it’s really just a new discipline you are practicing for YOU. You’ll need to do this until you learn to respect yourself too much to be willing to JUMP at the slightest hint of attention from Mr. Lover Boy. Don’t respond for at least four hours the first time, and try to work up to a day or two. Even if he called and didn’t leave a message. It was probably a pocket dial anyway. Sorry, I’m merely whispering the truth here.

b) You are a happy, welcome breeze to him. When you do call or text him back, keep it upbeat. No, I don’t mean in the 1950’s outdated, outmoded housewife sense. I mean, don’t be a friggin’ DOWNER. Do NOT use this as an opportunity to express your worry during the time he was out of touch, or to get whiny or weird, or ask him if you can get together. Remember, you’ve been so busy tending to your awesome, incredible life, and changing the world in the process, you really hadn’t even noticed that “Gee!! Has it really been since last Sunday that we spoke? No way!” Plus, you too are seeing his call or email (whatever) as a welcome breeze that came in to distract you away from your crazy empire. DO that for yourself. You’ll actually begin to believe it ladies. I promise. You won’t actually say you’ve been so busy building your empire (or business, or attending countless events, whatever). You don’t want the guy to feel less than you, while you’re learning this new discipline. You might simply say “Hey there! How are you? It’s great to hear from you!” And if in his upbeat and awesome way he says something about how he’s just been too busy to call, etc… Don’t even address it. Move on and say, “So, how’ve things been going?” Maybe follow up on a project or event he shared with you in the past.

c) Do not accept a same-day invitation. Remember: Just because he is busy, and can’t be expected to call you every moment, doesn’t mean that isn’t true for you as well. This is true even if you’ve been hoping/wishing/waiting for that call or invitation. You’ve got “things” to do. You are busy. Even if “busy” means you’re filing your nails, by god, you are BUSY, dammit. He doesn’t need to hear from you that he should plan in advance… A few “no” answers because he keeps inviting you out at the last minute will be all he needs to get a clue. If he doesn’t get it from that, either he simply IS too busy for you, and isn’t the right guy, or he’s too clueless to be worth your time. If you are doing #2 in that section above… remaining distracted while this guy gets a clue, I guarantee you that if Mr. Lover Boy isn’t all he’s cracked up to be, you’ll merely be free to notice someone who is.

You’ve just been *whispered* to people. Don’t miss the gems when they come.

Enjoy your week you gorgeous people!

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